What is Emotional Detachment?
Emotional detachment is a tool that bypasses, prevents, or controls unwanted emotional triggers. The name and its outer appearance may sound harsh. But I'm living proof that this technique work. We grow up letting everything outside dictate our emotional reactions, responses, and replies. Emotions are the root of how you feel, function, and think. Possessing the capability to detach emotionally helps identify unwanted emotions. Understanding the origin of outside emotional stimuli helps control what you feel within. Emotional detachment is a tool used to prepare individuals for change. Some changes don't happen overnight when feeling irritated, angry, and annoyed is the norm. Emotional detachment can detect scenarios that cause your emotions to shift.
For example, the phone keeps ringing, you're asked to attend events, and others persistently want to spend time with you. Emotional detachment allows you to focus and do one thing at a time. Focusing helps you stay engaged in one activity until completion. We try to please everyone around us while detouring from necessary engagements that improve our lives. It's impossible to complete assignments when distracted or occupied by others. Emotional detachment allows you to weigh your options, decide what to achieve, and bypass unbeneficial engagements until the appropriate time. Identifying how you feel and what makes you think that way is vital. Certain people, places, and things trigger negative emotions. Your aim in emotional detachment is to prevent yourself from being in emotional discomfort.
Emotional detachments assist you with timing, preparation, and predicted outcomes when placed in triggering environments. You emotionally prepare by understanding how outside sources make you feel. Sometimes, ignoring or avoiding people, places, and things is impossible. Emotional detachment allows you to recollect prior emotions once activated while mentally subsiding current ones. Emotional detachment does not make feelings go away. Instead, it consists of understanding that discomforting emotions will pass.
We don't have to function, speak, and respond to our daily emotional shifts. Emotions can be discomforting and do not come to life until we carry them out. Emotions subside after a while. Your job is not to allow invisible words to cause a detrimental physical reaction. One can practice timing with emotional detachment while knowing how long the emotion lasts. Timing leads to preparation. You can be emotionally prepared to be around people, places, and things that stimulate negative emotions. Emotional detachment helps determine how long you want to be in a situation. Example: If I'm in no mood for a gathering but attend, I'll detect how long I want to stay, the individuals to associate with, and when I need short periods to be quiet or alone in between. Based on allowing your emotions to pass, bypassing words attached to how you feel, and waiting to calm down displays the predicted outcome you planned before approaching.
Benefits attached to emotional detachment are your ability to say No when needed, comfortability, discipline, and not feeling obligated or linked to others' choices and outcomes. Many struggles with saying No to make others happy while they're not. Despite not wanting to, you say yes to everything, making you emotionally irritated and regretful after meeting the expectations of another. Avoiding people sounds unpleasant for some; it's a necessity for others. Being comfortable saying No keeps you honest and unregretful and helps maintain association with the individual who asked. Emotional detachment is not about ignoring people. It develops the mental maturity to control unwanted emotions, engagements, and problematic emotional attachments that lead to self-destruction.
Written By: Mirian Hobbs